Think of a few things that are complementary opposites; up and down, in and out, sun and moon, sea and shore, earth and sky, stillness and action. The list could go on and on.
Everything in nature is subject to these complements or polarities. A tree must grow its stabilizing roots deep into dark soil so that it’s branches may reach out for life’s nourishment and play in the light. Within each of us, not only do our biological functions, such as the breath, reflect this same primordial rhythm, but our minds, emotions and relationship with the world around us are subject to this dance. The nature of nature is polarity, from the magnetism that flows between the North and South poles of the earth, to the attraction between the masculine core and feminine radiance and beauty.
On a personal level, this dance is a skillful reconciliation between what we view as our strengths and our weaknesses, our fears and our deepest loving, what is expected of us and what may be our deepest truth. It’s a balance of our desire to be safe and comfortable and the compelling need for personal growth. If we push beyond our edge in constant challenge, we’ll be unable to metabolize our experience. Neither can we happily stagnate in a zone of security and comfort. To do this we must learn to relax into fearlessness. We must lean into our edge with sensitivity and compassion. Fear shuts us down while love coaxes us to open our heart. We must learn to be free and loving in the chaos of change and growth, not quitting when we seem to fail, but rather we must learn from our failures and return to love. We must do so by standing our ground and loving so strongly that only love prevails.
One aspect of us (*Siva) has as its ultimate reason for doing anything the discovery of our deepest truth and total freedom. The other aspect in all of us (*Shakti) is a deep desire to relate to the world fully and experience boundless love and creativity. Ultimate true love and true freedom are the same, yet the paths to this unity are very different. Nature, in its essence is unstoppable change and growth. Because of this every moment of our lives is either a test or a celebration. When we can engage in the dance and deeply commune in love we may then, with no boundaries, and fully open, offer our greatest gifts as they are revealed.
This is yoga. This is the dance of Siva and Shakti.
*Siva- the Divine masculine essence: imperturbable, totally loving, fully present, and all pervading.
*Shakti – the Divine feminine essence: The power of creation and growth, action, nurturance and the flow of love in relationship, the force of life.
Move to Freedom
"Bruce! I have really enjoyed being back in your classes this past week. I am hoping you could give me some pearls of wisdom with regards to work...
I have started a new job and I feel really off balance. Some days I work 14 hours in front of a computer. I thought it would be different. How do you know if something is right for you or when you are investing too much time at work at not enough on yourself and home life. I feel very overworked. I’m afraid if I mention this that I will be looked down on for not wanting to "move up". I totally work hard but have no desire for work to be my main focus. Just reaching out for any advice.”
That is always a hard question for any of us. I had a "great career" in advertising that I left after about 10 years. It just never felt right. It was also really demanding of my energy and my time and was relentless that way. I felt like it was destroying me! Obviously I am not there now.
It may be different for you. You may be doing what you love but the job in which you are doing it isn't the right fit. If it is a short-term step that will lead to bigger things, it may be worth the effort. If this job isn't leading anywhere and it feels like it is only tearing you down, then look for something where they don't demand so much and suck you dry. Unfortunately it is our work culture in this country. More demands for not much in return. A bad economy is just an excuse.
We only have this one life to live and our own happiness and peace of mind is OUR responsibility. If your employers don't want to hear that you are overworked, if they don't value your contribution and don't value you showing up with enthusiasm for what you do, then start looking elsewhere.
But first, remember, in any job, you will only receive what you ask for.
More and more, the simple advice I offering in class seems pretty right for the other aspects of life: “If something in the pose hurts or just doesn’t feel right, your body is asking you to pay attention. Pause, back off, reassess, then make an adjustment to create more stability, ease and freedom in what you are doing.”
This is something I remind myself of often.